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SunnySea Click to EMail SunnySeaClick to check IP address of the poster May-25-01, 05:54 PM (EST)
"The Mommy Ceiling.."
Lately I am realizing that I am paid A LOT less than my male counterparts. Is it because I have the family committment? Sometimes I wonder what goes on when they decide who gets what bonuses and how much being a mother really impacts that. It seems that the only women who are real movers and shakers in my company are single women who don't have families.

How do you all deal wtih this?? I am an environmental consultant and I work for a nationwide firm. I am getting very frustrated. Has anyone every confronted their employer about wage issues?

Thank you! Michelle

http://way.to/BeASAHM

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bizmom Click to EMail bizmomClick to check IP address of the poster May-31-01, 03:13 PM (EST)
1. "RE: The Mommy Ceiling.."
Unfortunately I think in many companies being a mother is still seen as a limitation regardless of how it impacts your job performance. Employers naturally assume that as a mother you don't give your full attention to your work activities. Hopefully with time the perception will change.

At my last job, male colleagues in the same position were making about 20% more than me. I realized that I didn't want to work for a company that didn't value me, so I left and explained why in my exit interview with HR.

I also think part of the reason that women aren't making as much as their male counterparts is because we aren't good at negotiating for money. I always feel like I am at the losing end of the stick, partially because many times I don't know what to ask for. A male colleague of mine got a golf membership thrown into his benefits; I would have never even known to ask.

I'm currently reading a book I'd recommend on the negotiating subject - The Good Girl's Guide to Negotiating

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SunnySea Click to EMail SunnySeaClick to check IP address of the poster Jun-02-01, 09:37 AM (EST)
2. "RE: The Mommy Ceiling.."
Thank you for the recommendation! I will read it!

Michelle

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elizabethaustin Click to EMail elizabethaustinClick to check IP address of the poster Jul-26-01, 09:08 AM (EST)
3. "RE: The Mommy Ceiling.."
I'm the co-author of The Good Girl's Guide to Negotiating, and we're delighted that you liked it. Thanks for spreading the word!

Elizabeth Austin

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SunnySea Click to EMail SunnySeaClick to check IP address of the poster Jul-10-04, 02:51 PM (EST)
4. "RE: The Mommy Ceiling.."
I was able to successfully negotiate my way in my next position to an acceptable salary...

I think we fail to ASK, and then wonder why we don't get. We need to be more assertive in going for what we want. I for one love my career, but also want more for my family so work a part-time business. Sometimes you have to go above and beyond to get what you want out of life and live your dreams. We must believe in ourselves and not accept anything less - in our jobs and otherwise.

Michelle

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