Ask the Expert: Finding Balance

Natalie Gahrmann is a success coach and owner of N-R-G Coaching Associates, a private coaching company that specializes in helping working parents achieve mastery of work and life. Her clients experience more clarity, direction and alignment while reducing stress in their busy lives.

Taking Time Off For Family

Alexis writes, "I anticipate graduating from law school around the same time as starting a family. Ideally, I'd like to take some time off before jumping into the workforce but I am afraid of losing momentum and of potential employers ruling me out as a candidate for taking 6 months or a year off after law school. Any suggestions?"

Answer: What I believe I hear you saying in your note is that you really want to take some time off as a new mom but are fearful of possible repercussions. I advise you to follow your instincts because you know what's best for you!

If your fear is truly that of losing momentum, find ways to keep it while honoring your personal and family needs. Perhaps, you can slow down your studies so that you are taking your last class while you are home with the new baby. You can also stay abreast of changes in the laws, begin study in a specialized legal area, and/or network and stay connected to the legal community. Often what we fear as reality isn't necessarily so.

Speak with some attorneys and legal professors to get their opinion about the real risks of taking a break before seeking employment. I know of some professionals who took time off after completing their degree for a mental break and were admired for their focus and determination when they committed to working in their chosen profession. So, I believe if you make the right decision for you, you can positively articulate your reasons for the time off when you are seeking employment.

Finding ways to integrate your professional life with your personal life is crucial. It's important that you honor your values and priorities at this time in your life. Create a plan that will allow you to do what you truly want to do.

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