Karen Deerwester, Ed.S. - Parent Educator and Early Childhood
founder and CEO of Family Time, Inc., and consultant. In 17 years of
seminars, and one-on-one coaching, Karen has supported thousands of
in their efforts to build great foundations for children. Karen is
committed to helping parents become problem solvers in the large and
questions that arise "living with children."
Explaining the Facts of Life
Question: Please advise on any resource books for explaining the facts of life for a 10 year old and one for a five year old.
Answer: There are many excellent books for children of all ages on the facts of life,
with topics ranging from my body and where do babies come from to
talking about sex with boys and girls. I recommend using children's books
as a tool for parents to find the words and the topics to begin a discussion
with their children. Every book isn't right for every home. Review a
variety of books for a variety of ages because each child's maturity and
experience level is unique. Some possibilities from younger to older readers
My local bookstore has a section titled "family values" in the
Children's Department. Get a cappuccino and spend an evening browsing the
literature available. Bring your spouse or a friend for some great sharing and
Before reading the book with your child, take some time
to clarify your intentions. What do you want to say? What do you want your
child to hear, to know, to feel? Children love conversations that tap
into "real" issues for them. Follow their lead in these discussions. The
only way to bravely go where their questions take you is to be clear
beforehand on your comfort areas and your understanding. Too many adults
remember the humor of parents giving rote answers in rote discussions! Enjoy
yourself - these are the moments we learn a lot about ourselves. Remember,
only you set the standards for what is age appropriate and family appropriate
in your home.
Karen Deerwester, Ed.S.
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